Women’s attitudes about how to approach a first date have divided the internet, with heated online discussions.
The debate started on TikTok after a woman said she decided to go on another date after not hearing from the person she was supposed to go on the original date with.
The woman, who goes by @Viv.aboufaissal online, said: “We were supposed to go bowling and we made plans three days ago but we haven’t spoken since then and he hasn’t messaged me to confirm.
“We said 7pm, and it was 2pm so in my head it wasn’t happening.”
She said she was going to drink with another person she met on a dating app, revealing that she had the best time.
But he then asked what other people would do in his position.
Another woman made her own video on the topic to back up the original video, answering Viv’s question.
The woman, known online as @bewellwithadiel, shared a similar stance and said if there is no confirmation in the morning, the date is not happening.
“If someone plans a whole date, makes a reservation and offers to pick me up but doesn’t text me the next day to make sure I consider the date cancelled,” she said.
“I didn’t reach out to confirm and I didn’t let him know I canceled it.
“Even though he confirmed everything 24 hours ago, it’s a new day, and if he doesn’t get in touch to confirm then he’s not really interested to begin with.”
Many sided with women about their opinion about how we should confirm the first date.
One said: “I agree, if it’s not confirmed it’s cancelled. And I’m not rescheduling either. I’ll let him know I won’t come if he asks.
“Hello simple, good morning, are we still on a date tonight? That’s what the dater is hoping for,” said another.
Another added: “I do this with my friends too. I don’t spend hours getting ready only to have someone cancel.
But not everyone agreed with the stance of the woman on the date.
“Arranged for sure. If you need that guarantee, make sure to ask for it,” one person said.
Another person added: “As a person with ASD / ADHD. Once the plan was made for me they confirmed it. I don’t understand this.”
One said: “Communication is a two-way street, there is nothing wrong with women communicating to be sure, it sets expectations.”
A man admitted that women have a very special taste and he wished her luck in finding a man who would meet their expectations.
